Monthly Archives: March 2011

Peripety in Progress


Ok friends…I promise this is the last thing you will hear about peripety…it is fun to say though, you have to admit!   This morning, after my whole big “peripety” post I was driving to my bible study when my phone pinged me that I had a FB message.  It was from the Philippines, sharing with me to pray all day today for our girl as she is doing the evaluations mentioned on my freak out day.  The other part of this message was that “She” knows something is UP.  She is a bright girl, and has realized that something is changing and I would bet she also knows she is not privvy to it.  I would pay a very large sum to be a fly on the wall in girls’ room last night as they talked about what it might be.  I wonder if she has guessed it!!!  I am not sure that thrills you the way it does Chad and I and the kids but WOW.  We can’t wait for her to see how God has laid this whole thing before her.  How he has answered her HOPE and one blessed day in the near future I will get to hear her tell me when she first had an idea…and I will tell her all about peripety.  Praise Jesus.





Anybody heard of peripety? I had not until last Thursday, during the video portion of my Esther bible study. Actually, I am sure there was a time when I heard it in an English class…all my really smart friends already know it, so I must have heard it before and promptly disregarded it after the pop vocabulary quiz. Anyway, peripety is a literary term that indicates the moment at which there is a REVERSAL OF DESTINY. It doesn’t have to be a glaringly obvious shift at the moment…more often it is in the future that you realize the moment that changed everything. For example, there was one cold (I am sure) January morning, early in 1993 when I walked into Sociology 232…first day of class…and I saw this college boy. He caught my attention, although I am certain at the time I did not catch his. I hurried home to tell my friend Amanda about this cutie. And promptly threw myself at him for the next 3 months until he agreed (under less than truthful invite) to come to a study group and dinner at my apartment, that he thought was for 4 but actually was a table set for only TWO. The rest is history. I truly believe that in that moment, when I walked into class…that was my “peripety”. Not that I have not had many in my life, both before and after meeting Chad. But that day, I felt a nudging that in retrospect, could only have been from the Lord. It was a “sit up and pay attention” sort of nudging. God knew I was not choosing well, so he was choosing for me. I was not walking with Him the way I should have been, and in His mercy he stepped in and took over—and offered me an arranged marriage of sorts. One arranged by him. I have never regretted one second of my marriage to a man that I know God chose for me…

In this season, I have wondered many times…what was our deciding moment? Was it my decision to go on the trip in March? Was it my decision to go to the Ateneo basketball game the first night when I was really interacting with her for the first time and teaching her how to make and L on her forehead to call the boys behind us losers? Was it on the computer in the middle of the night when I couldn’t sleep when I poured out HER to Chad through instant messaging? Was it when I got home, and felt a little crazy and desperate, unsure of why I was missing her so badly? I myself was confused by so many of my feelings after coming home. But God knew. He knew that the reason I was feeling so separated from her was because she was to be my daughter, maybe already was in his eyes. And who leaves their daughter on the other side of the ocean? Anyway, I hope in the future to more clearly express our moment of “peripety” the moment that was a reversal of destiny, for ALL 6 of us. It kind of goes along with Chad’s Two Risky Prayers. Maybe his prayer was our moment, because he completely gave up all control in his prayer before I left. I love how God works, I love the mystery we feel and the lack of mystery for Him. He is all knowing. He is not and will not be surprised by even one tiny occurence during this whole journey. What a relief.

This is my favorite biblical peripety…and when you read this, remember that one is Old Testament and one is New Testament. God knew both sides of THIS story before the foundations of the earth. He knows every part of your story and mine….

He grew up before him like a tender shoot, and like a root out of dry ground. He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him. He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not. Surely he took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows, yet we considered him stricken by God, smitten by him, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him and by his wounds we are healed. Isaiah 53:2-5

Enter peripety!

I saw heaven standing open and there before me was a white horse, whose rider is called Faithful and True. With justice he judges and makes war. His eyes are like blazing fire, and on his head are many crowns. He has a name written on him that no one knows but he himself. He is dressed in a robe dipped in blood, and his name is the Word of God. The armies of heaven were following him, riding on white horses and dressed in fine linen, white and clean. Out of his mouth comes a sharp sword with which to strike down the nations. “He will rule them with an iron scepter.” He treads the winepress of the fury of the wrath of God Almighty. On his robe and on his thigh he has this name written: KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF LORDS. Revelation 19:11-16

Jesus’ reversal of destiny was really OUR reversal of destiny!!! Amen! What was your moment of peripety???


All is OK


Ok, thank goodness the Philippines is 12 hours ahead. All is ok. The paperwork that I thought needed to be done directly AFTER matching is being handled this week, so she can travel, etc. with no problem. Matching will probably happen NEXT Thursday, which is fine. The relief that washed over me is indescribable. I know this journey is going to be more like a roller coaster than a stroll down a country lane, but boy am I glad this one was being handled already and my fears were completely unfounded. Just to prove to me, I am sure, that God is still on his throne, exactly where he belongs. WHY am I so prone to forget??? WHY do I continually try to control when I am absolutely NOT in control. I am so thankful for his grace, so thankful for his mercy this morning. Just a warning…if you read this blog regularly, this will probably happen again. In the near future. Have a great Tuesday!



Please be in prayer through Wednesday night that matching would take place THIS Thursday. Next Thursday would be ok also, but this one would give us the most time. Something has come up with our girl potentially traveling and we need the match to have taken place so we can continue to move forward at a fast pace. She has some paper work that needs to be handled asap after she is matched with us. PLEASE JOIN US IN PRAYING! I am so wanting to freak out right now, but know that God is not missing anything and that all things will happen in exactly the right time.
Be still, and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10


lifesong for orphans


I just received another great call on a Friday!  I pray next Friday the call I get is that our match is official!  Today I got a call from Lifesong for Orphans who I have mentioned before as the organization that is going to help with our fundraising by letting people donate in a tax-deductible way!  We are approved and our account is ready for action!!! I am hoping they will send me a way to create a widget so that I can post it here on the blog but will let you know when I know.  We feel so blessed today that they have hurried it along for us…thanks to Greg, my pastor who called them on our behalf.  (Go Greg!)  Anyway, I know this is not the spiritual high of yesterday’s post from Chad, but a blessing none-the-less.


Two Risky Prayers


As you know, Amy is the Blogger in the family and I tend to keep most of my thoughts to myself or only share them with a select few.  However, I have been trying to wrap my mind around how we got to this point, and I felt led to put my thoughts in writing.  In doing so, Amy has graciously given me permission to highjack her blog! 

I have titled this adoption process The Journey of Two Risky Prayers because…it is a journey and I believe God started us down this path after we prayed two prayers. 

 Prior to Amy’s trip to the Philippines in September I prayed this prayer for our family…”God please let none us go unchanged from this experience…Through Amy’s experience I pray that our lives will be changed”.  I don’t think I understood the magnitude of this prayer…I think I prayed it from my very narrow view of God. Risky Prayer #2 came during Amy’s trip.  As she was approaching Tent City she prayed…”God, just help me get out of the car”.  At first this doesn’t seem too risky, but once again, we often underestimate what God will do with such an open-ended prayer. 

 During this journey I have often asked myself why we would do such a thing…do you know what this will do to our family?…how will we pay for it?…will we have enough resources to provide for everyone?…I fail constantly as a father and husband.  You see…In my mind when we prayed these prayers we were thinking small and God was thinking big.  I wanted us to be “changed”, but I thought that meant being less possessive of our stuff and using some “left over” money to maybe sponsor a child or go on a future mission trip.  I also thought I needed to “get out of the car” and connect more with my community and be willing to serve God in some uncomfortable settings.  However, God was thinking much bigger…more radical.  God said,”I will honor those prayers but not on your terms…I have a Kingdom sized plan.”  He also said,  “You can’t do this…only I can.”  My plan was all about me and how I would use my job, my security, and my comfort…I don’t really want to risk a lot.  God said, “No…your focus should be on Me not your abilities.” 

 As I write these words my job is no more safe, the economy (at least in my industry) is not improving, and I still seem to fall into my old habits of trying to control everything. Adding to my fears is the fact that not everyone understands this journey and even some extended family members question my sanity. Yet, the journey continues…Each day I have to ask God for guidance and courage to move forward…faith…trusting that He will provide. I don’t have all the answers or any guarantees.  I often wonder if the journey isn’t about the adoption at all, but more about me and my Creator. 

So, I challenge you to find the God sized prayer He is nudging you to pray and I encourage you to let God hear you say it.  I can’t guarantee the outcome, but I can promise you God will use it for His glory. 

 For us, God chose the journey of adoption and He waited until we were not prepared and could not use our own strength.  I also believe He used those risky prayers to change our hearts by saying, “You have underestimated my Glory too many times so now, I going to span the globe and show the power of my love…more importantly I am going to use you in your weakness.”  To Him be the Glory….  Chad



Romans 8:25 NIV
But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.

I need to write this on an index card (or 10) and put them all over my house…my two biggest words right now, HOPE and WAIT!
Our dossier arrived in the Philippines YESTERDAY. The earliest they will meet on our file is NEXT Thursday, but would you all join me in praying THIS WEDNESDAY and WEDNESDAY NIGHT that they might rush through so we can get the matching part done?  They are 12 hours ahead of us, that is why we are praying on Wednesday.  Every Wednesday until I know, I will be praying all day.   Then our girl can know! Anyway, the earliest our case worker thinks it will be seen is NEXT THURSDAY at the matching meeting—but they have 4 weeks to do it. We are praying because they know our situation is high priority they will let us be seen next Thursday.

Today I sent off our initial immigration paperwork.  What a strange feeling.  If you ever want to read something confusing go to the web site having to do with immigration.  I AM AN AMERICAN and am hard pressed to understand the lingo on those pages.  I can’t imagine trying to figure it out if I were not a native English speaker.  After we sent it (express mail) I had sheer panic…did I do it all right????  We should hear back from immigration anywhere from 60-90 days.  I am going to pray speed through that process also!

Today I am finishing up our application for “Lifesong for Orphans”.  It will be going to the post office this morning.  They are a great organization that helps families fundraise for adoptions.  People can give to them on our behalf and they will direct the funds to specific adoption or travel costs.  The giver gets a tax-deductible receipt.  We are very excited to get this part of the process completed!  Several people have approached us about helping with our adoption costs, so very soon that will be up and running.

All in all we are very much at peace with where we are right now…the kids and I are going to begin working on videos and a photo album to send to her once she knows we are adopting her.  We are going to do a full “home tour” and also let everyone send her a video message as well!  After all this paperwork it will be fun to start working on something FOR HER…because she is really the reason we are doing all of this anyway 🙂